Personal development is a very large area that covers a lot of things. And there are many, many ways in which people desire to develop personally. There are people who desire to be better at speaking at the appropriate times, because they know they talk too much. There are those who would like to be better listeners. And those who, being extremely bashful, want to learn to talk more and to join in with the crowd.

 

There are thousands upon thousands who would like to learn to be better parents and even those who want to become more respectful children. There are those who want to become better golfers, better dancers, better computer programmers, better planners, better organizers, better doctors and better surfers. The list goes on and on forever. And just as there are so many things that people long to become better at, there are also so many ways of accomplishing it.

Personal development through modeling success

Probably one of the best way’s that I know of to quickly become proficient at almost anything is through modeling. Modeling is to find someone who is having the success that you want in any thing. Learn what it is that they are doing. And then do exactly what they do.

 

Finding someone who is having the success that you want will probably be very easy. But finding out exactly what they do might not be so easy. In fact, it can be quite difficult to do sometimes ( unless of course, you are the famous ” Invisible Man” and you can quietly follow them around). You will have to either have some personal contacts with that successful person or you will have to enroll into a situation where you are receiving information and instructions from them. In any case, you must acquire the information about what exactly they do daily, by whatever means that you can.

 

But this is extremely important. Why? Because if you know exactly what they do, you can become as good as they are. And you can accomplish this in a very short amount of time comparatively.

Dan Kennedy, the great Business teacher and Marketer, said that the results which come from aligning one’s behaviors up with those of already successful people springs forth with an amazing quickness. He said that the sooner you align your activities up with those who are already successful at what you want to do, the quicker will your results come.

In fact, the real reason that success takes so long is because it takes so long for the aspiring individuals to finally come to the point of breaking down and truly modeling the successful activities.

 

Modeling the successful activities has to be the daily goal.

As a matter of fact, making each day’s activities resemble those of the mentor is everything and all that there is for the student. Those activities, of course, that have to do with the thing that the student desires to model.

We don’t feel our way to action, we act our way to feeling

This is a very important principle that goes along with all of this modeling stuff. We do not feel our way to action, we act our way to feeling. Many times people find themselves with a problem that they need to overcome and they just think about what they can do, and think about what they can do, hoping that finally they might think and feel their way to success.

 

But anyone who is experienced, knows that you can not think and feel your way to success, you have to act your way to success. You might get a better understanding of what I am saying by doing this; for the next thirty minutes act as if you were extremely happy and at the end of that time, measure whether or not you “feel” happier.

 

Once a person begins to act the way that the successful individual acts, something very interesting will happen. He will begin to feel the way the successful person feels and see the way the successful person sees. And he will also begin to be empowered with some of the same power that the successful person is infused with. After that, it is only a matter of continuing consistently down a rapidly unfolding course.